frustration

So, recently I have noticed something, and it is really beginning to irk me. I know a few people who recently got married at a young age, and then their husbands joined the military. I can only imagine how hard that is, especially as newlyweds. The thing that is bothering me, though, is the way these young girls talk. I am beginning to talk like well my husband is fighting for this....our husbands are fighting for that... Hm. I can't really articulate the way they are talking....it just doesn't sound the same when I say it...lol. Well, let me just describe it, opposed to giving an example. These girls are talking like their husbands are the only ones fighting. They are talking like nobody else knows what it is like to have loved ones risking their lives. That is really irritating to me. I have a sister and three brothers that are/were in the army. One brother went to Afghanistan towards the beginning of this war. Another brother went to Iraq twice, and will probably be heading out for a third time over seas before too long. Soon two of my three sister will live out of the country because of the army. One of my nephews and my niece are going to be out of the country. Just because they aren't fighting doesn't mean I don't know what it feels like to have someone gone. They are living in other countries to work, and support their husbands who are fighting. Plus, like I already said, I do have people in my family going to the middle east and fighting. These days, almost everyone has a family member or friend who is in the military fighting for our freedom. Yeah, your husband is fighting, so it my sister and two brothers. Don't forget about my brother who already fought. Don't talk or act like you are the only person who is going through that, or the only person whose family is fighting for our freedom. I'm grateful your husband is, but he is NOT the only one. Don't act like I don't know what it feels like, and don't act like I am not appreciative, or you are the only one who is truly appreciative. You are not. The End.

Acting Foolishly.

Lately I have been experiencing a lot of loneliness. It is a horrible feeling. I am constantly trying to console myself and fill the void that I have. I try to fill it with friends, activities, guys, and plenty of other things. These things help for the moment, but as soon as they are gone, so is the good feeling. I know what the problem is. I am trying to fill a void that only God can fill. I know this with my head, but for some reason it isn't translating to my heart. The fact is, I need to spend more time with God. I know that, but I still don't do it. It is like I doubt His power. It is like I doubt His awesomeness. I don't want to doubt God. I want to feel secure in Him. Why do I keep holding on to the worldly things that will fail me? Why? I am foolish; that is why.

Questions

In the college group at our church, our young adult minister, Jason, and his wife, Ruthie, did a short series on dating, engagement, and marriage. They gave us biblical evidence and practical advise on the subject. They suggested these 18 questions be asked before engagement. These are key things that should be discussed before you plan to spend the rest of your lives together! Some of these are a given. On the other hand, some are things you wouldn't think to ask. I wanted to document them here since I will probably lose the paper.

Questions to ask before engagement.

1.What is your greatest fear or concern about being married? What have you done to address those concerns?

2.How do you define "healthy interdependence"? How would you maintain that in a marriage?

3. What do you believe are appropriate sexual expectations during marriage?

4. Do you want to have children? Why or why not?

5. How were you disciplined as a child? How would you discipline our children?

6. Describe your spiritual journey over the past ten years.Describe the high points and low points.

7.How do you handle conflict? Do you retreat, explode, or something else?

8. What are three things that really irritate you?

9. What are you expectations of interactions with in-laws and extended family?

10. What was your economic background when growing up? How has that impacted you today?

11. Are you a saver or a spender when it comes to money?

12. What are you dreams and goals for the next 5 years? 10 years?

13. Openly, but carefully, discuss you past sexual experiences.

14. What is there about my life that concerns you at this point?

15. How would you keep romance alive if we were to marry?

16. How has you relationship with God changed because of your relationship with me?

17. What is your personality type?

18. What are your expectation of your spouse?


Making the most of your engagement:

*Set stricter boundaries for time spent alone together and physical intimacy.

*The wedding process is stressful. Stay on the same team.

*Expect to get cold feet. (Nerves are expected. It is okay to ask yourself if you are ready to be a provider, or to be submissive. If you are asking yourself if you should marry the person...seriously reconsider.)

*Take premarital counseling classes.

*Pay off as much individual debt as possible.

*Make a plan for your new life together.

*Enjoy the journey.


Questions to ask before/while dating:

1. Where do you see yourself in 5, 10, 15 years?

2. What is the most important thing in your life and why?

3. What does your ideal family look like?

4. What is your parenting philosophy?

5. What is your personal philosophy on your finances? Are you a spender or a saver when it comes to money?

6. Would you ever adopt children? What are you thoughts on an ethnically mixed family?

7. What is your ideal relationship you would want with your in-laws?

8. What would a perfect weekend look like with your spouse?

9. Do you have interests that you would want your significant other to share?

10. What values do you want to bring from your family into a marriage?

11. Do you face difficult situations or try to avoid conflict?

12. Can you forgive?

13. What are you physical/ sex expectations, while dating and married?

14. Is seeking Godly counsel an issue in your life important to you?

15. Is there anything you need in your life, but have a hard time asking for?

16. What are you top 5 goals you want to achieve in your lifetime?

So obviously some of the question in the first set are derived from some of these. These things are all important to know when dating someone. After all, dating is to find a spouse! "When a guy asks these questions, the girl knows he is interested. When a girl asks these questions, a guy knows she serious." -Jason The fact is, these can be awkward topics to bring up. It can feel weird to ask, and weird to answer, but these can help weed out the people that are not right for you. They are important!

Fin.

Okay so I just posted, but I need to again. Ya know that cute little owl on a branch I use at the end of every post? Do you remember that little graphics I add every once in a while? (all from shabby blogs) Well, I guess I am not going to use them anymore because blogger changed how you insert a picture and stuff and when I try to do it, it doesn't come out right. Why do things always have to be changed??? I am tired of every freakin website "fixing" things that are NOT broken. Facebook does it. Myspace does it. Everything freakin does it and it pisses me off. Really. You are NOT making improvements. All you are doing is making things are difficult and annoying. Things were simple and easy and all you really did is make tit more difficult. I'm considering moving my blog to the tumblr I recently made. Ugh. I am so aggravated. A bad mood was already stemming, but not it is in full force because of stupid people who run stupid websites.
(no owl here because of you, stupid people who design blogger.)

ugh. err. gah. sheesh. umph. Same old story, so I will get to the point. I am tired of this crap. People need to be straight forward and not beat around the bush. They need to not put people under false impressions. They need to not lead people on. Be real with me and we will be dandy.

post via nook

Soo... i am writing this post from my nook instead of my laptop so i wont bother much for correct grammer or sspelling errors. Bear with me. Im not eexactly sure what i want to say but i know i need to write. I know i need to say something.i may just babble on and on about unimportant things or nothing at all rezlly. I just havent compiled any of my thoughts lately. I have so many thoughts in my bead at the moment. They are all zooming past each other in my mind. Im not sure where to start. Hmm. I think i am just going to make it simple and make a list of all my random thoughts.
1. I cant wait to get married.
2. I hope my dog knight doesnt pee or poop in the house.
3. I really dont want to wake up at 530 to take knight outside so he doesnnt do #2
4. I think i tend to like guys out of my league. Is that the answer?
5. I find it extremely rude when you invite someone to do something over text and they dont reply and that means no. Seriously... just reply and say no.
6. I found a wedding dress i am in love with
7. I cant wait to fall in love.
i cant wait to move out.
Im dropping the numbers now.
i want to be happy...like ecstatic happy.
I have stomachecramps...blah
a lot of the time i feel like no one pays attention to me.
I want to be certain
i am sleepy
Im not sure i can go tosleep
I like to snuggle
i wish i had someone to snuggle with right now
Its probably a goood thing no one reads my blog.
Im not gonna lie...i kinda wish people did.

I am so irked right now, I can hardly write. I am rewriting sentences over and over just so they make some sense. Sorry if I ramble and don't make sense. I can't wait until I am self sufficient. I can't take this much longer. I can't wait until I can stand on my own two feet. I want to provide for myself. I want to make my own decisions. I am tired of having to do what everyone else says. I am tired of having to be supported. I am so sick and tired of all this crap. I seriously need to get away....Soon.